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I used to think that if you had the crazy crush tingling I can't breath feeling when someone looked at you that there was no way possible they didn't have it too. That was back when I was young and foolish (around sixth or seventh grade). I kind of liked it. That way you were living in paradise.
But then I realized when someone keeps asking you out and you can't figure out why on earth they think you're compatible...maybe they're getting it and you aren't-- That its possible that affection, rather, fascination (admiration?) can be, and is most likely, one-sided.
More recently, when I've had a captive audience (when I'm on dates with boys) I have not even considered attempting to convince them to feel tingly. Maybe I assume there just will not be a two-sided connection? I wonder if that's healthy? I probably need (to see a doctor) to open my eyes and notice whether or not the boy is blushing when we speak...and I'm not talking about the teenage janitor whose one of my only "friends" at work. I'm talking real live men. Its time to kick it in high gear. Its time to live like I'm living. Its time to look a man square in the eye and notice whether or not he's looking back. Its time to let those boys know they love me. Alright Grandma, I think I've got it now. Look out Utah. Here I come.
Abish
8 years ago
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To tell you the truth tingly feelings don't mean much in the end. Sure they are fun, but its way better to have an intelligent conversation, an enjoyable time, a little laughing, good connection, shared interest, and a little tingle on the side (even if you have to have lots of non-tingle nice times together before either of you start to tingle.) Because the tingle won't last unless there is a lot more substance to the relationship than a tingle.
So, I'd say, don't worry about making them tingle, worry about keeping their interest.
Nicole keeps telling me that she can tell now when a boy likes her. It's a learned behavior. She said she's also learned how to get a guy to notice her. (Namely laugh at his jokes, and touch his arm a lot.) Sure, like Brecken said, it's not gonna make for a lasting relationship, but you can't have a lasting relationship without a second date.
I've sort of discovered that I don't really know anything about boys. I got Kevin by accident.
Plus, I think to "keep his interest" with the right one, you mostly just have to let your true self show. Hopefully you've already learned how to do that.
It was just a writers technique to carry the tingle through to the end. What I really mean is, I never think anyone will want to hang around...so I don't invest any effort into the time I do have to spend with them.
I had tingling feelings about this one boy that I had a crush on for about eight years. And then I realized we didn't have much in common and he just wasn't very witty. So, I'm not marrying him. I'm down with that.
P.S. Does this mean that O.T. worked?
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